Inattentive Parents

Parental affection and attention can seriously impact on a child’s motivation about life. As a youth, do you think of your parents as being there for you? Or it seems you are just on your own? You can help the situation by learning how to handle inattentive parents and also helping the family life altogether.

Listen to both episodes here.

Inattentive Parents Episode 1

Inattentive Parents Episode 2

Inattentive Parents

Parents who lack interest or involvement in the child’s welfare.

Causes

  • Poverty
  • Meeting the family demand – the rat race lifestyle.
  • Family break up/divorce that over shadow his/her child need as against the pain of divorce.
  • Parental pre-occupation with social ladder i.e. pastoral work or professional work.
  • Have it all mentality to the detriment of child’s need.
  • No parental skills. (Kids don’t come with parental manuals).
  • Concentration Deficit Disorder (CDD)
  • Stress or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Effects

  • Poor academic achievement.
  • Poor social skills/ interaction
  • Poor peer selection
  • Low self esteem
  • Inability to bond with others (since leaving with parents)
  • Rebellious Behaviour (neglected youth seeking for attention and got involved in drug, alcoholic, cultism and promiscuity.

Solution

  • Don’t blame yourself
  • Put situation in perspective – try to look at things from their point of view.
  • Involve in exercise – brain releases endorphins.
  • A type of natural chemical to feel better.
  • Write out your feelings in paper or journal if need be.
  • Enjoy in freedom – use it for personal development.
  • Cry if need be to feel better.
  • Don’t act out or good attitude – parent can’t read your mind or your desired affection.
  • Talk to your parents (set time to talk to them)
  • Be honest
  • Ask them and spend time with them.
  • Get attention from a mentor- to develop further interpersonal skills, self -esteem and confidence.
  • Find good group that shares your interest,
  • Talk to counselor, if it really hurt.

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