Inattentive Parents

Parents who lack interest or involvement in the child’s welfare.

Causes

  • Poverty
  • Meeting the family demand – the rat race lifestyle.
  • Family break up/divorce that over shadow his/her child need as against the pain of divorce.
  • Parental pre-occupation with social ladder i.e. pastoral work or professional work.
  • Have it all mentality to the detriment of child’s need.
  • No parental skills. (Kids don’t come with parental manuals).
  • Concentration Deficit Disorder (CDD)
  • Stress or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Effects

  • Poor academic achievement.
  • Poor social skills/ interaction
  • Poor peer selection
  • Low self esteem
  • Inability to bond with others (since leaving with parents)
  • Rebellious Behaviour (neglected youth seeking for attention and got involved in drug, alcoholic, cultism and promiscuity.

Solution

  • Don’t blame yourself
  • Put situation in perspective – try to look at things from their point of view.
  • Involve in exercise – brain releases endorphins.
  • A type of natural chemical to feel better.
  • Write out your feelings in paper or journal if need be.
  • Enjoy in freedom – use it for personal development.
  • Cry if need be to feel better.
  • Don’t act out or good attitude – parent can’t read your mind or your desired affection.
  • Talk to your parents (set time to talk to them)
  • Be honest
  • Ask them and spend time with them.
  • Get attention from a mentor- to develop further interpersonal skills, self -esteem and confidence.
  • Find good group that shares your interest,
  • Talk to counselor, if it really hurt.

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