Inattentive Parents
Parents who lack interest or involvement in the child’s welfare.
Causes
- Poverty
- Meeting the family demand – the rat race lifestyle.
- Family break up/divorce that over shadow his/her child need as against the pain of divorce.
- Parental pre-occupation with social ladder i.e. pastoral work or professional work.
- Have it all mentality to the detriment of child’s need.
- No parental skills. (Kids don’t come with parental manuals).
- Concentration Deficit Disorder (CDD)
- Stress or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
Effects
- Poor academic achievement.
- Poor social skills/ interaction
- Poor peer selection
- Low self esteem
- Inability to bond with others (since leaving with parents)
- Rebellious Behaviour (neglected youth seeking for attention and got involved in drug, alcoholic, cultism and promiscuity.
Solution
- Don’t blame yourself
- Put situation in perspective – try to look at things from their point of view.
- Involve in exercise – brain releases endorphins.
- A type of natural chemical to feel better.
- Write out your feelings in paper or journal if need be.
- Enjoy in freedom – use it for personal development.
- Cry if need be to feel better.
- Don’t act out or good attitude – parent can’t read your mind or your desired affection.
- Talk to your parents (set time to talk to them)
- Be honest
- Ask them and spend time with them.
- Get attention from a mentor- to develop further interpersonal skills, self -esteem and confidence.
- Find good group that shares your interest,
- Talk to counselor, if it really hurt.
