Inattentive Parents

Inattentive Parents

Parents who lack interest or involvement in the child’s welfare.

Causes

• Poverty
• Meeting the family demand – the rat race lifestyle.
• Family break up/divorce that over shadow his/her child need as against the pain of divorce.
• Parental pre-occupation with social ladder i.e. pastoral work or professional work.
• Have it all mentality to the detriment of child’s need.
• No parental skills. (Kids don’t come with parental manuals).
• Concentration Deficit Disorder (CDD)
• Stress or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Effects

• Poor academic achievement.
• Poor social skills/ interaction
• Poor peer selection
• Low self esteem
• Inability to bond with others (since leaving with parents)
• Rebellious Behaviour (neglected youth seeking for attention and got involved in drug, alcoholic, cultism and promiscuity.

Solution

• Don’t blame yourself
• Put situation in perspective – try to look at things from their point of view.
• Involve in exercise – brain releases endorphins.
• A type of natural chemical to feel better.
• Write out your feelings in paper or journal if need be.
• Enjoy in freedom – use it for personal development.
• Cry if need be to feel better.
• Don’t act out or good attitude – parent can’t read your mind or your desired affection.
• Talk to your parents (set time to talk to them)
• Be honest
• Ask them and spend time with them.
• Get attention from a mentor- to develop further interpersonal skills, self -esteem and confidence.
• Find good group that shares your interest,
• Talk to counselor, if it really hurt.